They came to worship every week for two years. Then quietly, they stopped. Weeks passed. Life moved on. No one meant to let it happen — but no system existed to prevent it.
Every pastor cares deeply about their congregation. Every elder wants to know their people. Every member intends to follow up. But intention without structure produces the same outcome, over and over: people slip through the cracks.
A family attends faithfully for months, then misses a week of worship. Then two. By the time anyone thinks to reach out, they've already found somewhere else — or nowhere at all.
A new face fills out a connect card after the service. It gets passed along with the best intentions. Monday arrives. The week fills up. By Friday, no one has called.
Someone in the congregation is going through a difficult season. They're still showing up, but just barely. No one knows — because no one has checked in recently enough to find out.
The distance between a church's intentions and its reality isn't a failure of character — it's a failure of infrastructure. Without a system, good people can only do so much.
Every person in the congregation has someone accountable for staying in touch with them.
New visitors are welcomed, followed up with, and thoughtfully connected to a member within days.
Elders can see at a glance which of their members need a nudge — before it becomes urgent.
The pastor has full visibility into the health of every relationship in the church without micromanaging anyone.
No one reaches a crisis point alone, unnoticed, without someone in their corner.
Responsibility is assumed but never confirmed. Two people each thought the other was handling it.
Connect cards sit in a stack. Busy weeks turn into a month. By then, the moment has passed.
Elders rely on memory and gut feeling — which means the squeakiest wheels get the most attention.
The pastor hears about problems after they become crises — and feels helpless to prevent it.
People quietly disappear, and no one connects the dots until they're already gone.
This isn't sentiment — it's documented science. The research on human connection is unambiguous: relationships don't maintain themselves. They require regular, intentional contact to remain healthy.
years of the Harvard Study of Adult Development found that close, consistent relationships are among the strongest predictors of health, happiness, and longevity — more than wealth, fame, or achievement.
Harvard Study of Adult Development
hours of shared contact are required to form even a casual friendship. Without deliberate structure, most connections never pass the acquaintance stage — no matter how warm the greeting at the door.
Journal of Social and Personal Relationships
per week — the contact frequency found in healthy community relationships. People who maintain this cadence with those important to them show measurably better wellbeing outcomes.
Frontiers in Psychology
"Research consistently shows that relationships require regular, intentional contact to stay healthy. My People — My Church ensures no one waits more than three weeks without someone reaching out."The core principle behind My People — My Church
My People — My Church gives your congregation the infrastructure it needs to turn caring intentions into consistent, accountable action. Four interconnected layers. Zero people overlooked.
Accessible by QR code, no login required. Visitors submit their information, prayer requests, and interests. Every submission flows directly into the pastor's unaffiliated pool for assignment — nothing falls through.
Each member sees their assigned people, color-coded by connection status. Logging a check-in takes three taps. Members can flag a concern for elder or pastoral follow-up — which automatically requires a note.
Elders see every member in their group, every person each member cares for, and everyone showing orange or red status. Weekly summaries. Real-time visibility. No surprises.
The pastor sees the entire church — all members, all statuses, all elder groups, and the unaffiliated pool. New people receive a celebration indicator and require acknowledgment. Nothing is invisible.
Every person in the system carries a simple, color-coded status based on when they were last contacted. There's no complexity, no interpretation required — just clarity about who needs attention right now.
This relationship is healthy and current. No action needed — just keep doing what's working.
Watch this one. It may be time for a gentle nudge — a text, a quick call, a thoughtful check-in.
Someone needs attention now. This person hasn't heard from anyone in three weeks. Act today.
The system is designed to remove every excuse for inaction. Logging a touchpoint takes less time than composing a text message. The accountability is built in.
Whether through a connect card submitted after the service, added by a member, or imported by the pastor — every new person enters the system immediately. They're placed in the unaffiliated pool, visible to leadership, waiting for connection.
The pastor or elder suggests a connection — matching people thoughtfully based on shared context, geography, or relationship potential. The suggested member receives a request, reviews it, and accepts or declines. Leadership guides the process; the member chooses to engage.
Every meaningful interaction — a phone call, a text exchange, a conversation at worship, a home visit — is logged in three taps: date and time, type of contact, optional notes. Members can flag any touchpoint for pastoral follow-up, which requires them to leave a note explaining why.
Elders see their group's status at a glance. The pastor sees the whole church. Red contacts surface automatically. No one has to ask for updates — the information is always current, always visible, always actionable.
Every congregation is different. The three-tier structure stays the same — but the names, the terminology, and the specific responsibilities adapt to fit your church's existing culture and language.
| Tier | Default Name | Your Church Might Call This |
|---|---|---|
| Top |
Pastor
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Bishop, Senior Leader, Lead Pastor, Superintendent, District Leader
Full visibility. Manages users, assigns people, oversees the whole church.
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| Mid |
Elder
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Deacon, Group Leader, Life Group Leader, Zone Leader, Shepherd, Care Pastor
Oversees a group of members. Sees red contacts. Receives weekly summaries.
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| Ground |
Member
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Attendee, Care Partner, Congregation Member, Cell Leader, Friend
Cares for their assigned people. Logs touchpoints. Requests follow-up when needed.
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Multi-campus and district structures are fully supported. A single leader can hold their role across multiple congregations with a unified view of all locations — while each church maintains its own data, members, and assignments. District-level permissions allow cross-church visibility without exposing private contact information.
My People — My Church is for churches that want to move from good intentions to consistent, accountable care for every person in their congregation.
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